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Xavier Mendoza • Mar 29, 2021

It matters!

You matter! 

Matter- to be of importance; significance.

As I listened to the person on the other screen, of course on Zoom, talking about life, the plan he had built to make progress and impact, and his mixed ideas around motivation, he said something that stood out to me.  

It was something I feel too many people may encounter all too often. 

Immediately I realized that so many times we fall into a trap… 

The comparison trap.  

You’ve done it as well, I know you have. 

And I would be lying if I did not admit to doing it myself.  

So many people are constantly looking around at others trying to see how they measure up to those they see.  

It is a death trap.  It will kill your…

Dreams 
Visions
Identity
Purpose

Or even worse…

Ambitions 
Motivations 
Desires 
Determination

To carry out your carefully constructed plan that is meant to thrust you into living a life of impact.  

But the comparison trap is only the beginning.  

As frustrating as comparison can be…

As life draining as it is…

As much as you may hate the fact that you do it…

It is simply the catalyst for something even more damaging, more frustrating, more life-draining, and more hopeless.

Falling into the comparison trap ultimately leads to a mindset.  

A self-sabotaging mindset.  

A defeated mindset.

A demoralizing mindset.  

This mindset eventually settles in your heart and soul at which point you begin to feel…

Empty
Disheartened
Hopeless 
Helpless

Here is the line the guy on the other screen used, “I started to feel like it didn’t matter and wasn’t good enough.”

This was, of course, regarding what he originally felt was on his heart to accomplish. 

How often have you found yourself not doing what you strongly feel you should be doing simply because you felt like it “didn’t matter”?

How often have you said, “it doesn’t matter”?

How often have you felt your life and your story  “do not matter”?

All because you started comparing and allowing the comparison to make you feel like what you wanted to set out and do may not measure up somehow in the eyes of those around you.  

Don’t let your tendency to fall into the comparison trap cause you to believe whatever it is you feel you should be doing does not matter, especially if you feel it is part of your vision, identity, and/or life’s purpose.  

Let this sink in my friend.  

If I were face to face with you I would look intently into your eyes and tell you that
​ IT MATTERS & YOU MATTER!

Blessings & Honor,
Paul Beam

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